Making Jokes in Relationships

A recent article on Self-Deprecating jokes and how they affect your parter brought up some interesting points. We recently made a new find soulmate post about how to attract people to you by working on your inner self - your beliefs and your self-esteem. One has to wonder - if you are happy with yourself and who you are why would you need to make self-deprecating jokes? And furtermore if your partner is happy with themselves and who they are, why would they need to get embarassed?

If both you and your partner have a solid sense of self, and you live two separate but intertwined lives, the communication between you two - even the unintended communications through your actions - should be solid.

Interview with a Pickup Artist

Over on the Spiritual Relationships website we talk a lot about finding your soulmate in the find soulmate section. There's also advice on communication in relationships, particularly in our relationship quiz section. But today we did something interesting. One of our writers did an interview with a Pick-up artist that we put in our Dating Advice section.

In general our attitude towards pickup artists is a positive one. They are generally men trying to improve their lives. Quite a few of them even find a spiritual path, one that leads to meditation, self improvement and improving the world. In general we think they cop a lot of negative attention, but as "JD" said in the interview, they often seek out the "seduction community" with a lot of negative baggage.

We think it would be better if they found paths like Spiritual Relationships. If they really improved themsleves on a deeper level and from that base sought to go out and meet women.

Soulmates, Relationships, Beauty and more

A lot of interesting articles have popped up for us over the past few days and we thought we would share them. An interesting article someone linked us to mirrors a lot of things we say on the Spiritual Relationships site. It's an article about Relationships and Falling in Love. We talk a lot about finding the love of your life on our find soulmate section, although we call it finding your soul mate, because we don't find ourselves talking very much about love. It's not a topic we feel can be covered intellectually, although that article did say something interesting:

"The key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person; It is learning to love the person you found."

On a completely different note, we wrote some comments about an article called "The Truth About Beauty" from Psychology Today. A new article titled Male Beauty covered some interesting points about ethnic bias in male beauty and how it is fading. But it mentions another point in it's second half - women do judge men on how attractive they are. While it does not play as large a role for women finding a mate as it does for men, beauty is still important for how much attention people get from the opposite sex.

 

Although we just don't think that things are as bad as the blogger on Psychology Today would have us think.

Meditation Challenge

Imagine being able to just think to yourself "I am warm" and have warmth spread through your body. Imagine being able to make blood rush to your extremities and for heat to rush to the palm of your hand at will. With this ability you can focus on the palm of your hand and hover it over another person and they will be able to feel like you are touching them. Is this the power of suggestion? Is it magic? Is it bio-mechanics? Why not take our 30 day Meditation challenge and find out for yourself!

This challenge will teach you how to meditate, and with just half an hour a day over 30 days you'll be able to do something amazing. This advanced meditation technique is the tip of the iceberg. It's a nice 'trick' to be able to do but the real power comes from being that in control of your mind. These meditative skills will lead to some intersting articles coming up real soon over at Spiritual Relationships.

Self-Improvement and Relationships

Read an interesting article in the India Times about goals and relationships. Are you trying to better yourself? Do you have goals related to self-improvement? According to the artice people with goals related to mastery are generally more open people and as a result have more open relationships with the people around them. A recent relationship quiz we posted on the Spiritual Relationships website was about how effectively you would rate the communication in your relationship. Do you think the kinds of goals you set regarding self-improvemet affect your relationships?

Mindwandering

This interesting article in Psychology Today talks about mind wondering and points out something many of us know about - but do nothing about: Most people are on auto-pilot roughly half the time they're awake and what's worse? It's making them unhappy!

The article also has some interesting things to say about mindfullness. It's a long read but a good one. We are big advocates of meditation on the Spiritual Relationships website and think it's a fantastic way to become more present.

When you're thinking about things that are not of the moment, or "mindwandering", you're not connecting to the world around you. To feel truly engaged to the people around you and feel truly connected to the world, try to feel present. To do this take time out every day to just take a few deep breaths and really focus on your breathing. Think about how you feel, what you can see, what you can hear, what you can smell and what you can taste. Really feel what your senses are telling you and enjoy being alive!

Find more than one Soulmate?

One of our writers found that inToday's writer Wonder Woman wrote a post about "Can you have more than one soulmate". What she found interesting was that the picture they used to highlight their point was from the twilighlit movies.

 

Our Spiritual Relationships webmaster also told us a few people found our find soulmate section by typing "meditation to find soulmate" into google. Because we do talk a bit about meditation wethink we might have to do an article on that soon. We are a bit divided at the moment on whether or not you can have more than one soulmate, but the question is, how will meditaiton make an impact on that?

Committed relationships and stress

Over at Spiritual Relationships we go through a ton of articles on spirituality, dating, relationships and life in general. I personally know three people in open relationships with a primary partner and three people who are seeing multiple people casually. It's interesting that everyone who is self-assured and self-actualized gravitates to the kinds of relationships that make them happy. They don't feel the need to be pegged into any one category. That said, we do have a primal need to have a special connection with someone, be it physiological or spiritual. Over at USAToday they had an article about how committed relationships may protect against stress.

I feel it's probably people who are aligned to their wants and desires. Imagine if you wanted to be single and carefree about the people you're seeing but instead found yourself in a committed relationship, how would that make you feel? What if you wanted to work irregular relaxed hours, and being your own boss but your situation found you working 9-5 at a menial job for someone else? We feel it's about aligning to your core and being true to yourself. Of course it's also important to have significant people in your life, and a committed partner is one with whom you can share burdens, but wouldn't it just stress you out if that's not what you wanted?

Why not have a look at the find soulmate section of our website and see how you can bring the people you want into your life.