How we're all linked with Facebook

Facebook has become such an important part of our lives. We use it to check if someone is single before we go after them. We look at photos of someone we're going to be set up with. We keep track of who is talking to our partners. And we send each other millions of messages every day. I wanted to take a slight deviation from our usual topics today and share this with you:

 

http://mashable.com/2010/12/13/facebook-members-visualization/

 

It's a visualization showing how people around the world are connected to each other with facebook. It sure has made the world small, hasn't it?

Entering Relationships with Baggage

According to this blog post from an Australian journalist, we carry a lot of baggage with us that will affect our future relationships. Namely: If our first love broke our heart we have trouble loving again. One has to wonder if this is true. Can we develop a sense of self so strong that our past cannot affect us? Or is the nature of love so intense that our first love really does affect how we live our life long after they are gone? Over at Spiritual Relationships we have been talking a lot about improving your inner-self to the point where your past does not affect you - where you have an internal locus of control and external events do not shape you. How much strength do we really have to break free of that strongest of human emotions, love?

Internal Worries and Relationships

Over at Spiritual Relationships we keep saying one thing - if you want to find your soul mate and have a long, healthy relationship you need to work on your inner self. Your self-esteem and your beliefs. People who have a strong sense of self generally don't worry about the future or feel guilty about the past. They understand that the most important thing that's happening is now.

So it was no suprise to read this Article from an Australian Newspaper today tbat said Worrying about money is linked to incraesed divorce rates. To quote from the article:

Not-for-profit support group Relationships Australia says the rise could be linked to the global financial crisis. ''We don't know for sure but we do know whenever we survey people about the factors that affect their relationship … the top three are money, work and kids in that order,'' spokeswoman Anne Hollonds said.

Teaching how to have relationships at school?

Actually, I think it's about time. More and more things these days are being taken away from parents and handed to teachers to educate kids about. From sex education to financial management. While some might consider it a sad state of affairs, it is an unfortunate fact. If kids are not learning it at school, than there is a good chance they aren't learning it at all. With often both parents working, homework, extracurricular activities, etc, kids rarely have time for their parents to pass anything on to them. And in this world where kids can know more than their parents simply by looking things up on the internet, even if their parents do try pass on some wisdom, it's not likely to get through.

So when we read about a class in Ohio about having healthy relationships we thought it was appropriate. Not only does it get kids to sit down and learn from years of collected wisdom from their seniours, but it actually gives the opportunity for kids to open a dialogue with their parents about the topic. Once upon a time we did not have schools, so kids learnt everything from their parents. Now when school takes up such a large portion of students times, I think it's only fair that they get taught some life skills as well as achademics.

Delivery, Time, Trust & Compassion

I read a very well written and thouht provoking Blog Post on the Huffington Post. Having a strong spiritual connection with your partner is built on a solid foundation. While someone wouldn't expect us at Spiritual Relationships to talk your deliver of the things you say to your partner, it is actually quite important. And we do in fact talk about it regularly in our Relationship Quiz section. But one can install see how Time, Trust and Compassion are deeply spiritual. Patience is often touted as a virtue, but it's also important to have something to be patient for. Planting the seeds of success and waiting patiently for them to grow is the real virtue.